Fascinating stuff, and I'll think about it and try to respond. For now, just one other thing: I hate seeing some male character I fancy in a clinch with some hussy; I don't at all mind seeing him in a clinch with a bloke. Doesn't feel so like competition. FWIW, I do believe that in RL I would be less upset if my bloke went with another man than with another woman (amazed, but less upset) because at least I'd feel that whatever he had gone looking for was something I couldn't have given him, so I wouldn't feel a failure.